I say it repeatedly: Lars is my guru. He’s showing me how to enjoy my walk. Yet still I fight it. It still tries my patience when he inhibits my mission. When will I learn? When will I understand how to deal with those times I can't handle it when things don't go my way? How many more months will it take me to learn how to walk?
Today was the best trip to the grocery store of my life. Yes, after motherhood it's really the little things! I finally got the nerve to take Larsen's real shopping cart to the smaller grocery store by our house. I did get many stares, but sweet smiles to go with them. I told him … Continue reading Teaching Kids Real Things
We did it! We bought our toddler a drum set. Shocked? I know. I questioned myself too. I do like a quiet home. But I am totally happy about it. He needed it. He’s been throwing things all the time lately. Sticks, yogurt, books, clothes, iPads. E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. While he was speaking in a different language … Continue reading Rechanneling Lars’ Need for Throwing
No. Not you. He stands on the scale. “168.5. Up ten pounds and I’ve got a muffin top.” He's an avid cyclist, needlessly worried how light he will be on the bike. These are the last words I need to hear from my husband right now. He didn’t have a baby almost 3 years ago … Continue reading Husbands and Muffintops
Want to know why our toddlers can be mean, bossy, and manipulative? Maybe the media they are ingesting can help you decode their behavior. I hardly let Larsen watch any TV before two. If there were any shows, it was Baby Einstein for a few minutes here and there, but he was never really interested … Continue reading Toddlers and TV Shows
Instead of giving Lars advice on how to draw a house, hit a ball, or build a tower, what if I first asked him what he thought he should do next? Or what if I asked him how I could help him? And if he answers he doesn’t know, maybe I can tell him I am happy to help and here is an idea or two for him to think about. Maybe this will help him develop faith in his abilities and trust that other people enjoy contributing to his success.
Today is a hard day. There’s a cat that pranced along our back fence, and the dogs are screaming at the back door thinking it is still on their property. The new recipe I am making tonight is non-existent as of 6:37 pm. I usually cook dinner at 5:30 so Lars can eat, bathe, and … Continue reading On Hard Days
Opposites Are Necessary If you raise your children to be generous, you must first allow them to be selfish. If you want them to be disciplined, you must first allow then to be spontaneous. If you want them to be hard-working, you must first allow them to be lazy. This is a subtle distinction, and … Continue reading Marshmallows and the Middle Way
“I live this way a lot, squinting around the bend, anticipating what I’m about to get. Don’t we keep expecting to get something? In particular, to get it? To figure it out? To reach a culminating resolution, reward, complete understanding, wisdom, clarity, closure, the right answer, the holy grail? That very expectation fills us up … Continue reading I Celebrate Myself
Faith is a funny thing. We bought Lars his own deodorant since he is always playing with Michael’s. I guess he is fascinated with it because it represents something real in the adult world - we slather our bodies with stuff like deodorant, make up, lotions; we talk about how people disappear to a place called … Continue reading I Have A Little Faith In Me